Called him a coward and a complete waste of my time. I feel as if I could love him if we had a longer time together but I do very much care for him. just like that. You never really praised him! He just said he was eating dinner and then asked if I was ok. He will be at your doorstep within a few minutes. Very early into our relationship he told me how much he cares for me and that he even loves me.. Ive never been in a serious relationship before so I was hesitant on what I felt but said I cared for him too to spare his feelings. And ladies pay attention or youll lose his attention men like to talk too if youre going to make their ears bleed. He had said it was difficult decision, but after a lot of thought it was over between us. 1) Usually not. Remember, if he wanted to see/speak to you, he would. We excitedly made plans to hang out. Since the very first day, I already knew its gonna be hard since hes almost 20 years older than me. I send a couple of text messages, saying I cant wait to see you, etc. I laugh when he texts me by mistake my name and his bestfriends name are listed next to each other to see if he gets a quick response from me. but what can I say. Well sorry to say but that is not a real relationship- if theres any chance in hell the exclusive talk will push this person out of your life youre not a romantic interest, youre an option. LOL funny! His disappearance could be a reaction to your actions, which he might have interpreted as coming off too strong. Why would he change so suddenly? I miss him like mad but i can no longer give him the best of me when he dips out all the time. He had dropped a phrase that he hadnt talked like this to a girl in 7 years. Then there was a tragedy in his family, I got a text telling me this, I responded sympathetically and he replied thanking me for my understanding and saying he loved me..and then nothing! Ashley, you say not every guy who pulls away is an asshole who doesnt care about you, but I find myself scratching my head and thinking.I would *never* leave someone I really cared about who was trying to communicate with me hanging for this long! His 36 yr old ex will surely not want to stay single for the rest of her life! Better not to analyze it and just let it go. Be thanking he walked away when he did. But if he only ever texts you late at night, it's a red flag. I know thats easier said than done, but please try even if just for me, some stranger on the internet. I know how frustrating this behavior can be, as Ive experienced it firsthand. I also dont feel alone in my situation! BUT heres the thing- it seems some women i meet dont understand that whereas you can gradually get to like her more, you can also learn to like her LESS over time. If we skip this one step, and pretend in our society that its ok for people to just leave when they please, without requiring responsibility and reciprocity that are BASIC, HUMANE qualities.. that its cool for people to do whatever they please we only end up demoting ourselves to disposable beings. So a shoddy treatment of me from someone who claims to love me is not on. Or am i just overthinking and overreacting? Truth! Or he ghosts and just disappears. He blew up my phone in the beginning then he slowly faded off. He made up excuses that he was busy with kids and work. I dont have any kids. Its like, here I made an effort to calling you, oh but sorry, you were sleeping, sorry to miss the call. It will be less scary the second time you communicate similar message. I met this guy on tinder 6 months ago. He was a little more quieter but not by much. He barely looked me in the eyes while talking, kept looking me up and down inspecting everything. I was bummed.. but hey, we were not dating, I could do whatever I wanted to with my life, and so could he.. I really like this guy and it would be really disappointed if I dont hear from him :(. I never acted needy have plenty of friends and stay busy. She will not feel the need to pursue because hell be doing all the pursuing. I do remember telling him that I was not going to have sex with him and I am sure he at no point forced the issue in spite of our hot sex chat online. Text him only once after he disappears. Our experiences do color how we view things. As I once heard someone say your picker is broken. Theres nothing wrong with you. Then when decided to forget him and move on he texted me again after that weekend only saying something like Hey pretty I ignored him. What I cant understand is he said whenever hes angry of sth or cant deal with it he comes to me so that we could talk and he would be ok again or find a solution for it and he really did so! Ive enjoyed being with you and Id like to see you again, but I havent been getting the same vibe since I last saw you. That following week he faded into an all together disappearance act. All of a sudden, he gets really distant. Anyway cut a long story short, started chatting to this guy on Tinder,we are both in music so we understand the unsociable hours and the pressure that comes with it. How much would it have taken you to tell her its not working out and good luck? Sorry for the long comment. I met this guy online one month ago we started chatting he was smart and funny. In this time he has told me that he wants to take things slow and eventually be serious with me, and I reciprocated those feelings. I play on a chess forum, and there is this really expert player, I befriended him and asked for lessons. This means, essentially, he's dating because it's his hobby and he has very little interest in pursuing anything more. That was the last I heard from him. You continued to contact him and have sex with him after he officially dumped you by text, which makes you a whole lot psycho. What if you just start to get comfortable with another guy and you can see a future with him and he pulls the disappearing act on you? Hard times dont build character, they reveal it. Really dont take it personally, if things between you dont improve. He said he wasnt interested. Ugh. I waited a week, hoping hed bring it up (he didnt). It sucks !!! Let him know what you want. He never responded back so I will never ever contact him again. Last time he texted me, was over a week ago. Dont text them. I think hes just not into you and doesnt see this relationship going anywhere, makes a guy that does this sound way more together and mature then he actually is and like he actually thought it through. But then again during halloween I just wished him just like to other friends and he immediately started responding. . Of course im always friendly, As im not the confrontational type (Hence why ive sat back and allowed it Ugh!!) He was talking about moving in only last week, which seemed to make sense. He had stated that he needed me in his life stating I was such a positive impact and that he valued that and needed my friendship. Anyhow. We made plans for the summer and meeting each others kids. We were talking everyday, he met my kids and we finally made it official. I loved her madly so rather than whine, I disappeared for a day and half, she chased asked me if I was ok but her tone became angry very quickly so I asked her to talk calmly and we can talk on the phone but she said she didnt want to talk! I believed him. I am a vivacious, outgoing girl. What we shared in time spent was worth more to me than materialistic things. Getty. This isnt about my self worth and I find it quite offensive when people say that. He could have just stay quiet after first date that would make his point more effective, no? No on and off. And thats the problem. I sent him a long message consoling him saying how I hope everything is ok but he never replied back. Its been 3 weeks now. Third date comes along we go out and once again have a good time and we dont realize we were up so late talking. Its very sad and frustrating. He also treated me as if I am his girlfriend and was perfectly treating me. Continued to text but avoid weekends until of course valentine rolled around. Interesting. Im so glad I found this post! Next day I texted him Even people at my work thought that he was into me as well and that it was pretty obvious. We texted some casual messages. have a movie night tentatively scheduled i have zero intention on trying to sleep with her, since i dont see a future in it. Maybe thats my problem. I deserve better.. its sucks but I need to wake up in the reality that i kissed a wrong frog again.. this what exactly happened to me.. all our dates are perfect, all the signs that a guy like you are present. Do nothing. I try not to take it personally but did I reject him in some way? And most of the time, they will reason that the girl is probably on the same page so there is no need to reach out. If smn looses interest why asks to do smth on weekend. until we agreed to see each other. Im going to back off my guy and focus on me. I was seeing a guy for 3 weeks. He couldnt say it back when I told him. Now at this point, if he actually asks you out, you can say, That could work. I had a crush on this guy for a really long while on social media and I followed him on facebook, out of curiosity and i didnt even talk with him. Oh dear I may need some moral support. It does become difficult when I have strong feelings for the person. A great burden was lifted from me and I felt free again. Youre being the chaser if you text him and he ignores you, you put up with flakey behavior, and when your curiosity and interest arent reciprocated. You can send him a text where you: Here are 15 texts you can send a guy when he disappears: 1. Write a letter or email to him letting him know how much he hurt you and how much it hurt you that he disappeared. Just remember..people always make time if something is important to them.so that really is one lame excuse from his side.forget about him, the right one will come and make you forget about all the bad things of the past.keep strong and dont bother wasting one more second on this guy!!!! I feel that this showed him that I know my worth, that Im not going to play second fiddle, and that if he ever decides to step up to the plate and actually date me for real, I wont tolerate that sort of behavior. Get back out there and date more. That might appear strange and downward pitiful, but it is a fact! He says he does not see me much anymore and whats my work extension so he can call me. Although I really liked this guy my integrity and love for myself always comes first. I later realised he wasnt interested at all and its very painful. I feel so stupid sometimes cause deep down I want to hear from him. I do not use medicine, i think its a plague in this country, and i think we are vastly over medicated in general- im quite fit and healthy and believe myself to be healthier without it. I can relate to most of you. Hello, Ive been dealing with the remorse of my recent actions in my relationship. I told him that I have feelings too and I feel very hurt I also felt that I was not a priority in that no matter what as long as she is going to have something against what he does and if he responds that way we could never have a healthy relationship because she will always control what he does. Most are liars, and the other ones are cowards. One day he was here and then the next day, he was gone. I wish there was a LOVE button for this!!! This is the road Ive usually taken with him but I dont want to rush things and feel I should continue talking to him a bit longer before trying to see if hes interested in starting something again. I couldnt be happier that i came across this forum. At some point, hell realize how badly he treated you. Im ashamed to admit that I actually gave a guy who did this to me a second chance only to have him turn around and do the same thing again, and yesI let him have it!!! 2. She is not a bad person but sadly she is not normal due to her borderline personality disorder. Dont let people tell you that you are perfect and dont need to change. We would have small talk every once in awhile like people do when passing each other but nothing significant. Initially, I felt what Is It about me what wasnt Enough for him. If he didnt, he will try to use you for his pleasure and let you off the hook! At the end he said he was busy to meet up and not looking for commitment. I wish I had closure. Maybe you ladies date men who dont have much of a life. I asked him severally if he didnt want to be me. Who knows anymore. its been two months and we still having bad communication.. Needy? He also let slip that when he ignores me he knows that all I will be thinking about is him all day every day. I have known him since June but will not sleep with him till I am certain He is sincere and committed to us being together. Men will continue to be themselves. I am no longer going to send him messages because I get the hint. Especially the one I feel the most for. And also not possible to call bcs his country (UAE) is block all the apps to make a call. I say I can but only for an hour and then I have to leave. Im going through the same situation as you, trying to get over someone whos playing hard to get or who doesnt care about me (I dont know the answer). None of us are perfect and we can all improve ourselves (especially men!). Heart broken. I keep telling myself its his loss, not mine. Anyways, we talked for 2 months over the phone and snap chats and a couple of Skype calls and he was on my Instagram. The second time was a year later due to a misunderstanding. Did you ever actually meet him in person? Frankly, I think my actions were rather compassionate. Would rather live single than go through this stuff, all games! But what to text him when he disappears? Really hear me on this point: assertive energy demands respect. To me, he is either dead or I just wanna slap him! Many of us would LOVE toknow why. I feel like Im a likeable person. 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